Friendly reminder ԅ(≖‿≖ԅ) that if you don’t sleep with someone for the sole reason that they’re HIV positive then you ARE being discriminatory towards a human being with a disease and you’re scum of the earth ｡◕‿◕｡ It’s basically as bad as saying you couldn’t love somebody with cancer. Respect people’s feelings. (◕‿◕✿)
*five-second-long fart noise*
First of all, some facts.
1. HIV is a virus that can multiply quickly in your body and damage your immune system.No cure exists for HIV infection or the later stage of HIV disease known as AIDS.
but let’s break that down even farther.
Human Immunodeficiency Virus is a lot like other viruses, including those that cause the “flu" or the common cold. But there is an important difference – over time, your immune system can clear most viruses out of your body. That isn’t the case with HIV – the human immune system can’t seem to get rid of it. Scientists are still trying to figure out why. Over time, HIV can destroy so many of your CD4 cells that your body can’t fight infections and diseases anymore. When that happens, HIV infection can lead to AIDS.2. HIV lives and reproduces in blood and other body fluids. We know that the following fluids can contain high levels of HIV:
- Semen (cum)
- Pre-seminal fluid (pre-cum)
- Breast milk
- Vaginal fluids
- Rectal (anal) mucous
Other body fluids and waste products—like feces, nasal fluid, saliva, sweat, tears, urine, or vomit—don’t contain enough HIV to infect you, unless they have blood mixed in them and you have significant and direct contact with them.
Now…sex is a tricky thing. People have it in LOADS (heh) of different ways. But most commonly the fluids you will come in to contact with during sex are semen, pre cum, vaginal fluids and anal mucous. Sometimes blood. It varies, depending on who your partner happens to be, but basically what I’m saying is you run the highest risk of catching HIV through sex.
SO WHILE I AGREE THAT PEOPLE WITH HIV POSITIVE/AIDS STATUS ARE STILL PEOPLE IN EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WAY AND DESERVING OF RESPECT AND COMMON HUMAN DECENCY; REFUSING/DECIDING NOT TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO IS HIV POSITIVE IS NOT THE SAME AS DENYING THEM THE RIGHT TO SIT AT YOUR RESTAURANT BREAKFAST COUNTER OR KICKING THEM OUT OF A SCHOOL FOR BEING “UNCLEAN”.
DECIDING NOT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE FOR ANY REASON, ESPECIALLY ONE AS SERIOUS AS AN HIV POSITIVE STATUS, DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SHITTY PERSON. AT ALL. IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM.
I personally wouldn’t sleep with any one with an std/sti. I wouldn’t sleep with anyone with a cold. I wouldn’t kiss anyone with a coldsore. Basically if you have something I can catch and you tell me, I’m probably not going to sleep with you or put myself in a position to catch said thing.
(However, I will thank you politely for telling me and hope that we can still be friends).
It’s true that condoms and other things exist and help protect those who don’t already have HIV/AIDS or std’s/sti’s to not catch HIV/AIDS or std’s/sti’s.
But not a single one of them is 100% effective.
Furthermore, it’s my choice whether I even want to bother using those things or not.
You can fuck right off for shaming people for wanting to make their own choices.
Like really, what the fuck are you expecting people to do?
"Well, there’s something about you that you can’t change that not only puts my health at risk but also makes me supremely uncomfortable/unwilling to have sex with you, but I’m going to fuck you anyway so I can look like a good person, and not hurt your feelings.”
Tumblr user fagsindubai what the fuck are you on?
3. In 2011, an estimated 49,273 people were diagnosed with HIV infection in the United States. In that same year, an estimated 32,052 people were diagnosed with AIDS. Overall, an estimated 1,155,792 people in the United States have been diagnosed with AIDS.
4. An estimated 15,529 people with an AIDS diagnosis died in 2010, and approximately 636,000 people in the United States with an AIDS diagnosis have overall.
TL;DR? Sex and HIV are VERY SERIOUS BUSINESS. Whether or not you choose to sleep with someone who is HIV positive is YOUR CHOICE. Don’t ever let anyone shame you in to thinking and/or believing otherwise.